Crazy there is no effort in being hapoy with my wife.
Im happy everyday cause we are together.
What's there to be unhappy about?
Im happy everyday cause we are together.
What's there to be unhappy about?
OT. Anyone fight with spouse about money?
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Kohls Kash…gaslighting women since forever.
It’s like the bonus bet at the Pai-Gow table.
The only good Kohls Kash is when someone else bought shit and then you get to use the Kohls Kash.
All the money I made? So you’re saying you are set up good in life and for retirement? Money wouldn’t cross my mind either and I wouldn’t fight with my wife about a budget if I was. My OP is about how I can get through to my wife about how and where we should be focusing our dollars. Our marriage and family are solid. I would like to be more fiscally frugal in these times.
Then be what you set out to be. If that’s your goal, seems rather easy discussion you can have with her. No offense, but if your wife doesn’t understand she can’t spend like crazy when things are tight - then there’s no help for you
Married guys are much happier and live longer than single guys
Take inventory of your life. Youll get to your mid fifties and have major regrets. Best case scenario, youll find former beauty queen with 3 bratty kids that despise you. Yea!
My only regret? Not having more kids. Love my wife and my life. Would not trade it, and it is far from perfect.
Ignorance is bliss. People who don’t get it, may never get it, and they think they’ve got it made.
I know this guy who works a job like other guys, and support his kids like millions and billions of men before him and he got married to a woman he professed to love, probably drives a 50k-60k truck, spends 10k on hunting, fishing, and other exploits a year...might spend a couple thousand on alcohol and tobacco but inflation is real bad so he tells his wife he needs to monitor her spending. He doesn't like the answer he gets so he goes on a public message board full of degenerates, and divorcees, and perverts, and probably worse to complain about her in the hopes that..... Probably should have said talk to a therapist then your wife.
30 and 2. I was not mature enough to marry in my late 20s. Then I sobered up and realized all of the good ones were flying off the market. It was time to act.
He is hurt because he is an Iowa fan pretending to be a Husker fan on a Husker board. #Crazy
Do you mean you stopped drinking? Or are you just using that term as is you "sobered" up and knew you needed to settle down.
But they do, right? I mean, if they don't "know" and they are happy then they are in fact, happy.
I needed to settle down. Had some friends pairing off, starting families and on good career paths. I knew I eventually wanted to get there. I did not want to be the single guy at the BBQ anymore, as much as I do like having complete time freedom for the most part.
There is a lot of that. I hope none of our douchey fans are doing this on other boards.
Makes sense.
And you are happy, so that is awesome! That is what people who get married hope for!
Sadly, 50% end in divorce and that probably means there is another huge % that want to end their marriage but can't/don't for some reason.
I don't think most of us even check other boards...there are probably 10-12 boards that have a lot of traffic.. in the Big Ten it is probably just us, OSU, Michigan and PSU.
Yes, sad statistic indeed. Someone in the comments put it well. You get out what you put in. Most of us wrestle with our own selfishness. Its work and reward. In the past, people hung together and got through hard times. Less so the last 40 years
Well, mostly because women basically had no rights, few options in the work force and were expected to get married by 22. The stigma, for a woman that got divorced, was pretty brutal.
Nah.. just iowa fans pretending to be Nebraska fans on their board. A very sad, desperate bunch
Precisely.
This is exactly what I say when people try to explain away the numerous studies that show people who only had one sexual partner, their spouse, report higher sexual satisfaction, overall happiness in marriage, and sexual frequency than thosw with multiple partners before marriage.
“Well they just dont know what they’re missing!”
Ok? They are happy and having a lot of satisfying sex. Who cares?
The satisfaction drops with each added partner until about 10, stabilizes and even rises again after that, but those with 1 or 2 partners are most satisfied.
(My hypothesis on the rise again after about 10 is people feel used and are so glad to be settled with one person)
While there is some truth to what youre saying, I think its overblown and not the number 1 reason. you cannot ignore the fact that martiage was seen as much more sacred in our grandparents time, much more of a partnership, and they were less likely to have multiple sexual partners.
Maybe...BUT...my grandparents time was a long as time ago.
1900, the average age of marriage for a woman was 22, which means she was "going steady" with someone by what, 18? 19? and engaged by 20.
That really doesn't give a lot of time to meet (and bone) other people.
I would argue it is MORE sacred today just due to the fact of the number of people that get married in a religious ceremony.
Those that were growing up and had only 1 sexual partner, their wife, probably just had no game.
I was kidding...
Every orgasm I have ever had has felt the same...AMAZING
And so what if I cry after!!!
People were more religious back then, this is fact that is not debate-able.
They matured faster. There are reasons for this.
Women have evolved and are having menapause later. Biological clocks of yesteryear were not as they are now.
Not having time to bone other people is a positive, not a negative. Marriage outcomes are better the less people you “bone”.
Not sure why its bad to go steady by 18 or whatever. Their marriages were steonger overall than today and I dont buy that its because women wanted to sleep around but the man wouldnt let them.
Probably depends on when they met their wife. I mean some dudes just hit the jackpot early and are smart enough to stick with it.
This is women who were studied, btw.
What does "more religious" mean? There are more religious people in the world today than 100 years ago.
America. Church attendance is lower than ever. This seems widely known.
Cohabitation is also a huge predictor of divorce. Couples who do not cohabitate before marriage are much less likely to divorce. Cohabitation didnt happen in our grandparents time at all.
Okay
Again, as a sacrament, I think marriage is an amazing step/journey in a couples life.
100% of people who never lived together and were married and then divorced have divorced. 0% of people who have lived together and never married have divorced. Think of all of the millions of divorces and broken families saved by people living together first.
Start by paying yourself first, always. Or, save a certain set of your income first and always. Agree that you will both do this.
Even if you have debt you want to pay off, still save first. Reason is saving is a habit. Even if it’s a tiny amount. If you don’t, 5-10 years will go by, and you’ll have saved nothing. Also, it takes awhile, but after 2+ years you start to see your money pile up, saving itself starts to become addicting/fun. Do NOT keep this money in cash if you can help it.
Then budget up the rest. Cut up all of your credit cards, or hide them, if that is your problem.
You really want +EV, put all savings into ETH and BTC and cash out the next top in 2025. ;-)
Bingo that's what I did...got my 30 grand out of the way by April. Always max you HSA account.
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