Your use of "us" and "them" is fairly inaccurate. By far most BLM folks didn't loot and riot. Most went out and began peaceful protests. In some cases the police initiated attacks on people who were otherwise peacefully protesting, which is a right in this country. And yes, of course there were also riots, but you ignore completely the fact that far right wing militia also showed up to those protests and all hell broke loose. Don't you include them in your group of "we"? After all, the language they use to describe BLM, their praise of Trump and stated policies sound an awful lot like the "we" you describe.
Let me say for the record that looting and rioting is terrible, but it happens all over the world when citizens feel powerless, or they perceive a break in the social contract. You can't reason with it, you can't excuse it, but it does happen, and the best a nation can do it try to understand WTF is going on and address the issues. At the end of the day, the unrest will continue until there is a dialogue.
It's not just that conservatives want all stick, it's that they only want it for the people they disagree with, not a peep about tiki torch marches by white nationalists. Nothing of plots to kidnap and murder Democratic governors. There is zero effort to strike a balance or deescalate the situation. And the right doesn't have a platform, other than law and order. If you are a student of history you would know that law and order has always been the mantra of those in power. But never in modern history has that message resonated with a majority of the public, at least not when the issues involve social inequities. You can deny, ignore, deflect, obscure all day long, but it won't change these things, in fact, it'll probably make them worse.
Bottom line, your argument that "we" were peaceful is not accurate. Your politics have been anything but peaceful. The founders of BLM have aligned themselves with a Marxist platform, but the many tens of millions of people who support the BLM message are not Marxist. They aren't following an ideology, they're following a social movement to address persistent racial injustices. Again, you can spit Marxist insults all day long, it doesn't make them true. The parallel between the present and the Civil Rights movement is quite stunning. Most of the right wingers on this board, I have no doubt, would have shouted at the top of their lungs that MLK was a socialist, or argued that marching in the street is not the proper way to be heard. All of this appears to be lost on the right. We are in a midst of a culture war. It's sad to see.