So this is the season of off topic discussions and since this site is mostly guys I wanted to see if you guys had some advice for my situation. It's a bit long fyi.
I was with my wife for 11 years and have 2 kids. She decided she was unhappy and wanted end the marriage last year, I think 2 of her "feminist" friends poisoned her mind. There was no cheating or anything, we were just going through a rough period. We went to counseling but counselor said he couldn't help.
I put some effort to win her back but it didn't get anywhere. It seemed like the more I tried the more pissed she became.
So we had to live together while she prepared to buy her own place and she kept rejecting my attempts to reconcile. When I tried to get romantic she would tell me not to touch her. She even said a few times "don't touch me, go **** someone else, you have my permission"
This went on for 3 months and when she was a few weeks from moving out I met someone to go on a date with. I told her about it beforehand and she said that it was good for me to move on.
Anyways date went well and when I came home late she was waiting for me and started crying and saying how could you do this to me. She said she wanted some time away and maybe eventually work things out. I was confused but it really effected me seeing her upset and I broke things off with the other woman even though she was really into me.
So she moved out about 3 months ago and I'm trying to move on but struggling. I've gone on a 2 dates and its refreshing to see someone who looks at me fondly. The issue is I don't care for these girls and can't get my ex out of my head. Logically I know I need to move on but I am still trying to get back with her even though she keeps rejecting me.
If anyone else has gone through separation/divorce I would appreciate some advice on how you got over your ex. My plan, even though it's not bringing me as much joy as it did in my youth, is to date a few women and focus on work.
I was with my wife for 11 years and have 2 kids. She decided she was unhappy and wanted end the marriage last year, I think 2 of her "feminist" friends poisoned her mind. There was no cheating or anything, we were just going through a rough period. We went to counseling but counselor said he couldn't help.
I put some effort to win her back but it didn't get anywhere. It seemed like the more I tried the more pissed she became.
So we had to live together while she prepared to buy her own place and she kept rejecting my attempts to reconcile. When I tried to get romantic she would tell me not to touch her. She even said a few times "don't touch me, go **** someone else, you have my permission"
This went on for 3 months and when she was a few weeks from moving out I met someone to go on a date with. I told her about it beforehand and she said that it was good for me to move on.
Anyways date went well and when I came home late she was waiting for me and started crying and saying how could you do this to me. She said she wanted some time away and maybe eventually work things out. I was confused but it really effected me seeing her upset and I broke things off with the other woman even though she was really into me.
So she moved out about 3 months ago and I'm trying to move on but struggling. I've gone on a 2 dates and its refreshing to see someone who looks at me fondly. The issue is I don't care for these girls and can't get my ex out of my head. Logically I know I need to move on but I am still trying to get back with her even though she keeps rejecting me.
If anyone else has gone through separation/divorce I would appreciate some advice on how you got over your ex. My plan, even though it's not bringing me as much joy as it did in my youth, is to date a few women and focus on work.