There goes the California connection.
Iowa sucks.
There goes the California connection.
We might have agreed once or twice in the past but honestly I don't remember that happening. With that said, you have actually changed my view slightly on this.Everyone is giving props to KJSr., but there is something to be said for allowing a kid to dig himself out of the trouble he created, without dad swooping in and pulling him out of school. If I were dad, and the issues weren't major (which they don't appear to be), I would monitor him from afar, and have him work through the issues he is going through. Put in the work to get himself out of trouble.
You want this to be horrible so badly.We might have agreed once or twice in the past but honestly I don't remember that happening. With that said, you have actually changed my view slightly on this.
I grew up around the NY Jets and even though I was in college when Keyshawn was drafted I heard the stories from people who "were there." He deserved the nickname "Meshawn." For those that don't know, he was called that by not only the national media but by his teammates - writing a book ("just give me the damn ball") after his rookie season didn't help. He was known as a relentless worker but was also known for partying his butt off (burning the candle at both ends with a little chemical help) and generally being oblivious to how his attitude and behavior was alienating him from those around him (to say it kindly).
You have to assume he has grown in the 20 years since then but from delusional a hole with no aweness of how people around him perceived him to father of the year is a bit of a stretch.
I'm sure he loves his son and in his heart thinks he is doing the right thing.
Where you have turned my head a bit is when I first heard this I thought like father like son. But now I think...damn son...sucks to have a dad that is still consumed with controlling everything, making himself the center of attention and not letting you grow up.
No...don't want this to be horrible...this is a real kid with real issues to deal with...You want this to be horrible so badly.
A dad sees his son going down the wrong path and slaps his ass where it hurts. It wasnt just the weed.
He isnt the dad that threatens the xbox being taken away then doesnt take it away.
We could use more dads like sr. Period.
We might have agreed once or twice in the past but honestly I don't remember that happening. With that said, you have actually changed my view slightly on this.
I grew up around the NY Jets and even though I was in college when Keyshawn was drafted I heard the stories from people who "were there." He deserved the nickname "Meshawn." For those that don't know, he was called that by not only the national media but by his teammates - writing a book ("just give me the damn ball") after his rookie season didn't help. He was known as a relentless worker but was also known for partying his butt off (burning the candle at both ends with a little chemical help) and generally being oblivious to how his attitude and behavior was alienating him from those around him (to say it kindly).
You have to assume he has grown in the 20 years since then but from delusional a hole with no aweness of how people around him perceived him to father of the year is a bit of a stretch.
I'm sure he loves his son and in his heart thinks he is doing the right thing.
Where you have turned my head a bit is when I first heard this I thought like father like son. But now I think...damn son...sucks to have a dad that is still consumed with controlling everything, making himself the center of attention and not letting you grow up.
I just dont think you know everything about the situation. Weed wasnt the only factor.That's exactly what I thought when I read that he was pulling him out of school. I remembered Keyshawn Sr. being a showboat and making the game about him more than his team. Was he thinking "I can't embarrass the family name or the institution or pro team I'm playing for?" Hell no. How about understanding that your kid is 18 years old and is going to make some mistakes...just as you did? He made mistakes and no one drug his ass out of school.
His kid isn't embarrassing 'the family name' or Riley or the University of Nebraska. He's just a kid that might need some guidance, but doesn't need to be humiliated by being drug out of school and brought back home to go the JUCO route for a semester. If Key Sr. would have thought about this more, he would have realized that this is a part of growing up. Learning from your mistakes and moving on from them. I think you are right...he was making it more about him as Parent of the Year when he should have just said "How can I best help my son learn a valuable lesson from this?"
But I guess him pulling him out of school and bringing him home is better than being a completely non-participating parent and allowing him to flounder on his own. But there is middle-ground.
I just dont think you know everything about the situation. Weed wasnt the only factor.
You say you want key to have his son learn from his mistakes? Thats exactly what hes doing. Maybe he knows his son better than we do and he knows that leaving him as a hot shot at UNL this year will not enable him to learn from his mistakes?
So why would he want to go to another school where the same problem could persist? Im not saying you are wrong in that grades and S&C factored into this decision because it did... but why would that mean he wont come back ( granted he gets his act together, which he may not)?I have changed my opinion with regards to KJJ returning. I no longer believe he does. With that said, I am told that the decision was made in conjunction with KJJs ability to withdraw from classes before it went down as incomplete. If I am not mistaken, had it gone much longer, the grades would have not been withdrawn they would be Incomplete and I believe that grade affects GPA and eligibility.
If you couple the grade situation, the marijuana and the apparent lack of commitment in the S&C room, the decision to get out while he could. The embarrassment of daddy pulling you out of school would trump the embarrassment of being ruled academically ineligible. Being ruled academically ineligible could have affected his ability to transfer to another D1 school in January.
So why would he want to go to another school where the same problem could persist? Im not saying you are wrong in that grades and S&C factored into this decision because it did... but why would that mean he wont come back ( granted he gets his act together, which he may not)?
You think he will go to another d1 school?Sorry I was unclear. I don't think the grades and the S&C are why he isn't coming back. I just changed my mind and now don't think he is returning.
By leaving before he was ineligible he left the door open to transfer without restrictions, and potentially going to a JUCO for a year and having to get his associates degree.
The timing was calculated to avoid a potentially more embarrassing situation come August. IMHO.
You think he will go to another d1 school?
...sucks to have a dad that is still consumed with controlling everything, making himself the center of attention and not letting you grow up.
Not returning because he doesn't like it here as much as he thought he would? Not getting along with teammates and/or coaches? Or would rather stay on the west coast going forward?Sorry I was unclear. I don't think the grades and the S&C are why he isn't coming back. I just changed my mind and now don't think he is returning.
By leaving before he was ineligible he left the door open to transfer without restrictions, and potentially going to a JUCO for a year and having to get his associates degree.
The timing was calculated to avoid a potentially more embarrassing situation come August. IMHO.
Not returning because he doesn't like it here as much as he thought he would? Not getting along with teammates and/or coaches? Or would rather stay on the west coast going forward?
I'm not missing this one bit...in fact, it is a part of my thinking this casting senior as father of the year is ridiculous. The only reason I didn't bring this up is because I don't know if this was more a Riley call or a Key call. My gut tells me this was more Riley and what senior is doing is damage control.I think Ellobo is missing the Mike Riley aka Head Coach factor in all this. Jr. not being part of the program wasn't just dad's call.
Lot of pessimistic speculation IMO. Another factor is Sr. and Coach Riley's relationship that dates back to before there was a Jr. If you factor that in, the decision appears to be a mutual partnership. I know Sr. was a straight shooter with his son coming out the spring, not as public, but for us locally we saw it. Doesn't surprise me one bit that being substandard for Sr. factored into all this. Doesn't mean he was making it all about himself. Heck probably would have forced him to go to USC if that were the case.I'm not missing this one bit...in fact, it is a part of my thinking this casting senior as father of the year is ridiculous. The only reason I didn't bring this up is because I don't know if this was more a Riley call or a Key call. My gut tells me this was more Riley and what senior is doing is damage control.
I'm not sure this is purely (or mostly, even) a Riley call... our top returning receiver was also busted for pot in May, and he hasn't been shown the door. I would think Riley would try to show some consistency in how he would treat both situations.I'm not missing this one bit...in fact, it is a part of my thinking this casting senior as father of the year is ridiculous. The only reason I didn't bring this up is because I don't know if this was more a Riley call or a Key call. My gut tells me this was more Riley and what senior is doing is damage control.
I'm not sure this is purely (or mostly, even) a Riley call... our top returning receiver was also busted for pot in May, and he hasn't been shown the door. I would think Riley would try to show some consistency in how he would treat both situations.
This leads me to believe it is a call between both KJSr and Riley.
I keep telling you guys, transitioning to college in January is NOT EASY. If it were my kid, I would do everything I could to tell them to finish up their senior year and be a kid while they still can. I struggled my ass off as a freshman, all new location, all new friends, tons of things to figure out.KJS saw his kid making some of the same mistakes he did as a young man and decides to step in and try to correct him. Good for him. Whether or not KJS was a selfish player in the NFL is irrelevant. This is more about a dad trying to guide his kid through rough water. I would hope to hell the rest of you would do the same thing rather than let him just flame out on his own. It's called being a parent. KJJ will be 18 shortly if not already and if he feels like it he can take off and do as he darned well pleases. IF he wants Papa's continued financial support though he'll do what Papa wants and toe the line. That's reasonable. That's not controlling.
Ha ha ok. Neither of us know but you believe there was. Keeping LP around and playing him after a short 6 game suspension was proof nothing was evaluated. Christian Peter was suspended for one game after being convicted of sexual assault 2 years before the LP incident. So even if the 1996 and 1997 had fewer incidents, there were still some. And the crimes committed in those years were a whole lot more significant and damaging than smoking weed and skipping class.
Way too much factual detail. We are living in an age where it is nearly impossible for people to change their minds. "TO=enemy of the state" here. Don't lose your sanity. Talk about something else.With all due respect, that's complete BS. LP was kicked off the team by TO. But the athletic department sent him down to the Meininger Clinic in Kansas, which is sort of the Mayo Clinic for psychological issues. He was there from Monday following his Sunday attack on KM through the following Friday (at probably $10,000 + per day). The doctors there concluded that the best way to treat him was to put him on a rigorous plan of mental health treatment, with goals, both mental and academic, that he had to meet on a weekly basis. They also concluded that since football was the most important thing in his life, he had to be given the carrot of being allowed to return to the team for meeting all of his goals in the treatment plan. The clinic contacted TO and proposed the treatment plan, including the possibility of LP's returning to the team. TO initially rejected that possibility. The doctors tried again (I have been told by one person that they actually flew up to Lincoln to meet with TO but I haven't been able to confirm that anywhere else). After further discussions TO relented. He added several conditions of his own, including that LP was done at NU after that season and that after all other goals were met, LP had to meet with KM's entire family and get an ok from each one of them for his return. LP met all his goals (he actually met them before the Colorado game, but TO didn't want to return him for what the coaches considered would be the toughest/most important game of the season) and so was given the reward of being allowed to return to the team as promised.
BTW, a small University (forget the name, begins with a W) conducted a study following the 1995 season concerning the treatment by schools of football players convicted of assault against women the 1995 season. There were 17 D-1 players convicted of misdemeanor or felony assault (recall that LP was convicted of third degree misdemeanor assault). Two schools did not suspend the player at all. Iowa suspended their player for 1 game, but that was his last game as a senior, so that was all that he could be suspended. Thirteen schools suspended their players for either 2 or 3 games. NU was the only school that suspended their player for more than 3 games.
As for CP, again you are missing the important facts. After CP was convicted of sexual assault, as well as a number of other alcohol related crimes, he was ordered by TO to undergo psychological testing. It was determined that he had a problem with alcohol, but was not an alcoholic. That seems confusing, but after talking with a number of CP's friends, including 2 from high school, he basically had a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde personality, with alcohol bringing out the Mr. Hyde. So based on that evaluation, in order to stay on the team CP had to:
1. Stop using alcohol completely for the balance of the time he was at NU
2. Continue psychological counseling on a weekly basis with both University and private mental heath professionals.
3. Undergo random testing for alcohol and/or other illegal substances on a weekly basis for some period (I forget how long), switching over to once a month thereafter for as long as he was at NU.
4. Attend AA or a similar type of support group at least once a week.
5. Speak to school kids in Lincoln and Omaha about his issues and how to avoid them.
There were also a few other minor requirements that I forget. CP was also redshirted following his Prop48 year. The journalists I knew back then were uniformly confused by this. The ostensible reason was to work on CP's footwork and technique, and to get him to drop some weight. However, according to those who watched CP in practice, while he was raw, he was the best run-stopping D lineman we had. It turns out that the primary, although not exclusive, reason for the redshirt year was to make sure CP abided by all the requirements imposed on him for a year before allowing him to see the field.
Punishment under TO was always about much more than a public suspension. It was based more on identification and treatment of underlying problems. Sometimes that was successful, other times it wasn't. However, to base an opinion on whether matters were being "swept under the rug" based solely on how many games a player was suspended is absurd.
Way too much factual detail. We are living in an age where it is nearly impossible for people to change their minds. "TO=enemy of the state" here. Don't lose your sanity. Talk about something else.
How dare you.With all due respect, that's complete BS. LP was kicked off the team by TO. But the athletic department sent him down to the Meininger Clinic in Kansas, which is sort of the Mayo Clinic for psychological issues. He was there from Monday following his Sunday attack on KM through the following Friday (at probably $10,000 + per day). The doctors there concluded that the best way to treat him was to put him on a rigorous plan of mental health treatment, with goals, both mental and academic, that he had to meet on a weekly basis. They also concluded that since football was the most important thing in his life, he had to be given the carrot of being allowed to return to the team for meeting all of his goals in the treatment plan. The clinic contacted TO and proposed the treatment plan, including the possibility of LP's returning to the team. TO initially rejected that possibility. The doctors tried again (I have been told by one person that they actually flew up to Lincoln to meet with TO but I haven't been able to confirm that anywhere else). After further discussions TO relented. He added several conditions of his own, including that LP was done at NU after that season and that after all other goals were met, LP had to meet with KM's entire family and get an ok from each one of them for his return. LP met all his goals (he actually met them before the Colorado game, but TO didn't want to return him for what the coaches considered would be the toughest/most important game of the season) and so was given the reward of being allowed to return to the team as promised.
BTW, a small University (forget the name, begins with a W) conducted a study following the 1995 season concerning the treatment by schools of football players convicted of assault against women the 1995 season. There were 17 D-1 players convicted of misdemeanor or felony assault (recall that LP was convicted of third degree misdemeanor assault). Two schools did not suspend the player at all. Iowa suspended their player for 1 game, but that was his last game as a senior, so that was all that he could be suspended. Thirteen schools suspended their players for either 2 or 3 games. NU was the only school that suspended their player for more than 3 games.
As for CP, again you are missing the important facts. After CP was convicted of sexual assault, as well as a number of other alcohol related crimes, he was ordered by TO to undergo psychological testing. It was determined that he had a problem with alcohol, but was not an alcoholic. That seems confusing, but after talking with a number of CP's friends, including 2 from high school, he basically had a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde personality, with alcohol bringing out the Mr. Hyde. So based on that evaluation, in order to stay on the team CP had to:
1. Stop using alcohol completely for the balance of the time he was at NU
2. Continue psychological counseling on a weekly basis with both University and private mental heath professionals.
3. Undergo random testing for alcohol and/or other illegal substances on a weekly basis for some period (I forget how long), switching over to once a month thereafter for as long as he was at NU.
4. Attend AA or a similar type of support group at least once a week.
5. Speak to school kids in Lincoln and Omaha about his issues and how to avoid them.
There were also a few other minor requirements that I forget. CP was also redshirted following his Prop48 year. The journalists I knew back then were uniformly confused by this. The ostensible reason was to work on CP's footwork and technique, and to get him to drop some weight. However, according to those who watched CP in practice, while he was raw, he was the best run-stopping D lineman we had. It turns out that the primary, although not exclusive, reason for the redshirt year was to make sure CP abided by all the requirements imposed on him for a year before allowing him to see the field.
Punishment under TO was always about much more than a public suspension. It was based more on identification and treatment of underlying problems. Sometimes that was successful, other times it wasn't. However, to base an opinion on whether matters were being "swept under the rug" based solely on how many games a player was suspended is absurd.
The meninger clinic is not all that it's built up to. Maybe they did right by LP though.
A woman I used to date, who was the chief child psychologist for the Denver Public School System, made the comparison to the Mayo Clinic when I asked her about it. I don't have any other information other than what is on their website. But I figured she would have a good insight into the clinic's level of competence.
Peter was convicted of sexual assault, having a drinking problem doesn't exonerate him from stupidity
I have seen how loose they are with pill prescription, so a different issue than the competency in diagnosis or other treatment means. They can't help everyone right? And not everyone wants to be helped. And the clinic is probably no worse than others with regards to the prescriptions.
I think TO screwed up in the LP case. He let his desire to help a troubled kid get in the way of sound policy.