What type of parent are you?
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LOL! 2 choices??? I’m not a helicopter parent. But parenting is complicated. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. My kids are 12, 9 and 4. I help when in I feel help is needed. I let them fail when I think learning is necessary. At times I hug them and tell them everything will be okay. At times I tell them to get up and move on because it’s not that bad. Sometimes I ask what they want for dinner and act as a short order cook. Other times what is for dinner is what is for dinner and if you don’t eat now then there’s nothing until breakfast. It’s such a balancing act the it’s hard to put into just 2 categories. At times I feel maybe I’m too much of a helicopter parent. At times I feel I’m too hard on them. As a parent l’ve learned I’m never going to get it 100% right. I’m going to love them. I’m going to spend time with them. I’m going to instill values in them. Then I’m going to do my damnedest to strike the best balance that I know how to, and in the end if they know they were loved and given a chance at some opportunity, then they’ll be fine.
I always had a broom and dust pan ready to pick up the pieces, put them back together again, pat thrm on the butt and tell them to go get'em. Life is hard... learn from failure but let that stop you.
One thing I loathe is seeing a kid go full temper tantrum in a store and the parents trying to "talk" to him. "Now Billy." My dad would of took the belt to me right away. While I think that is too harsh this day and age so many kids are not disciplined to the point it should sting some.
I have 3 kids, 2 are college grads, one with her masters, and both are gainfully employed. My 3rd is in an honors program at one of the top business school in America.
All I have to say about that is, thank God I married up and clearly my wife is the reason why the kids are who they are!
All I have to say about that is, thank God I married up and clearly my wife is the reason why the kids are who they are!
Helicopter parents hover over everything their children do. Lawnmower parents mow a perfect path for their children to walk down. Bulldozer parents knock down every obstacle to help their children succeed
All 3 seem to want to do all of the heavy lifting. I guess I am a lazy parent. I just give the guidance and advice, if they take it great, if they don't they will live and learn. We have to teach some self-responsibility at some point though.
Depending on the day, I like my dog better than my kid.
Joking of course. It's actually every day. 😁
Man, I’m sorry to hear that.
Just lost my 2 year old niece to leukemia (infected chemo port, more specifically) a few months ago. It really puts things in perspective. Hug your kids, put your phone down and don’t work too much. You only get so much time with them when they’re young. And unfortunately for some, it’s less time than what everyone else gets.
Thanks. Going to be a weird Christmas this year. But seriously, hug your kids and spend time with them. Seeing my BIL have regrets of working too much and missing time with her is terrible.
When your kids have grown, and they spoil the shit out of you, you know you did a lot of things right along the way.
Tuco, with the path your kids are on, the results of their upbringing are apparent. Kudos!
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One of my favorite sayings is “children are a grandparent’s revenge”. So far my grandkids are the best thing ever. 😁
I’m still green in the parenting role as my kids are 4 and almost 2, so I don’t know the challenges yet to come with raising , teaching and protecting them as they grow. I do know that I will be a parent that encourages my kids to go explore and experience life (responsibly) , and I’m going to push them to pursue college/career in something they are passionate about , not always taking the sure thing or safest road as I did. As a teacher, I’ve been around a lot kids and have seen it all personality wise but there are really only 3 types of kids. Sheep, wolves and shepherds. I vow to raise shepherds.
It is realistic.
So, biologists believe that women, for the most part, forget the actual pain of being pregnant and the pain of childbirth, because if they did not...they would never have more kids.
Same with dad...we forget years 0-4...we forget the backtalk and the issues...we remember the good times and later we even joke about the bad times...later...much later.
We are wired that way. Understandably so.
It is not bad, it makes sense. It is like all things that are "good"...we forget the bad parts.
I hate that EVERYONE should agree with this...but will pretend like they don't.
I've heard that from my parents a few times growing up. I would love a son, but, I need to meet Miss HH, first....
You can try to “raise” your kids but I believe there’s only so much you can do. The difference in personalities between my kids is pretty amazing. In different volunteer roles I worked with teenage boys for over 20 years. You kind of knew how most of them were going to turn out pretty quickly.
