OT: Regret getting married?

[NikkiSixx]

just curious what the percentage rate is of people who regret getting married

my cousin tells me it's not what you think it will be

i have one basic fear.. constant bitching, moaning, complaining etc (ie. will married life be like this message board sometimes)

 

[Cornicator]

Every God Damn Day.

 

[litespeedhuskerfan]

I love being married. Wouldn't change it for anything. However, I married a great gal, who in all honesty could do way better than me. So perhaps you should be asking her this question?

 

[stxhusker]

If you regret being married, that is potentially a strong signal that you are married to the wrong person. Find the right person, work a little at your marriage and maybe, just maybe you won't regret it.

 

[NikkiSixx]

for the record, I'm not married yet, but considering it

 

[Cornicator]

I love my wife as a partner, as a friend, and as an amazing mother to my children. But uh I guess I, deep down, am feeling a little confused. I mean, suddenly, you get married, and you're supposed to be this entirely different guy. I don't feel different. I mean, take yesterday for example. We were out at the Olive Garden for dinner, which was lovely. And, uh, I happen to look over at a certain point during the meal and see a waitress taking an order, and I found myself wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Uh, odds are they are probably basic white, cotton, underpants. But I sort of think, well, maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something really cool that I don't even know about. You know, and uh, and I started feeling...

 

[leodisflowers]

Regret, heck no. But it is definitely different when you get married. Some for the better some for the worse, but agree that if there is regret you married the wrong person.

 

[leodisflowers]

I love my wife as a partner, as a friend, and as an amazing mother to my children. But uh I guess I, deep down, am feeling a little confused. I mean, suddenly, you get married, and you're supposed to be this entirely different guy. I don't feel different. I mean, take yesterday for example. We were out at the Olive Garden for dinner, which was lovely. And, uh, I happen to look over at a certain point during the meal and see a waitress taking an order, and I found myself wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Uh, odds are they are probably basic white, cotton, underpants. But I sort of think, well, maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something really cool that I don't even know about. You know, and uh, and I started feeling...

No it's ok honey, I got a fresh beer.

 

[litespeedhuskerfan]

I love my wife as a partner, as a friend, and as an amazing mother to my children. But uh I guess I, deep down, am feeling a little confused. I mean, suddenly, you get married, and you're supposed to be this entirely different guy. I don't feel different. I mean, take yesterday for example. We were out at the Olive Garden for dinner, which was lovely. And, uh, I happen to look over at a certain point during the meal and see a waitress taking an order, and I found myself wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Uh, odds are they are probably basic white, cotton, underpants. But I sort of think, well, maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something really cool that I don't even know about. You know, and uh, and I started feeling...

No, that's just called being a guy. The day you stop wondering what color panties that little hottie is wearing, a little bit of you dies inside.

 

[scottym800]

I thought we were in the trust tree? In the nest? Are we not?

 

[jimbosc]

I love my wife as a partner, as a friend, and as an amazing mother to my children. But uh I guess I, deep down, am feeling a little confused. I mean, suddenly, you get married, and you're supposed to be this entirely different guy. I don't feel different. I mean, take yesterday for example. We were out at the Olive Garden for dinner, which was lovely. And, uh, I happen to look over at a certain point during the meal and see a waitress taking an order, and I found myself wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Uh, odds are they are probably basic white, cotton, underpants. But I sort of think, well, maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something really cool that I don't even know about. You know, and uh, and I started feeling...

Cornicator.....that is the male condition. Being married does not change it. A man is as loyal to his woman as his options....and window shopping while married is not illegal.

 

[anon_umk0ifu6vj6zi]

I love being married. Wouldn't change it for anything. However, I married a great gal, who in all honesty could do way better than me. So perhaps you should be asking her this question?

She says she is ok with it. Rimshot

 

[scottym800]

just curious what the percentage rate is of people who regret getting married

my cousin tells me it's not what you think it will be

i have one basic fear.. constant bitching, moaning, complaining etc (ie. will married life be like this message board sometimes)

Someone on here once told me it is like being married to multiple people. The first being the one you knew you were marrying. The second being the future mom (it changes women). The third being the empty nester, then grandma and so on. So far he has proven to be accurate.

 

[Cloud@Heart]

I really love my kids!

 

[TarheelHuskerFan]

I'm 25 and have been married 4 years. There's things that really stink. I'd love to come home from work and do whatever I want. I want to play ps3! Lol

All the little things aside though it's so worth it. Shes my best friend and I can't imagine being without her for the rest of my life..I could use a weeks vacation a couple times a year though haha.

Now I have a 10 month baby boy that makes it even more fulfilling

 

[RedSea]

Marriage is (or at least was) supposed to be a lifetime commitment. Any commitment or institution you are involved in for a very extended time will usually have events or times when you regret what your in. Businesses, careers, friendships, clubs, churches, your parents or siblings, kids, marriages, etc. Sometimes and some things you regret and sometimes you don't or wouldn't have missed. And there is no way to know whether things would have been better on the road you didn't take.

 

[NikkiSixx]

Someone on here once told me it is like being married to multiple people. The first being the one you knew you were marrying. The second being the future mom (it changes women). The third being the empty nester, then grandma and so on. So far he has proven to be accurate.

That's good insight right there!

 

[Tuco Ramirez]

If you regret being married, that is potentially a strong signal that you are married to the wrong person. Find the right person, work a little at your marriage and maybe, just maybe you won't regret it.

In my experience, it's just as likely that they're the wrong person. A lot of people who are pissy about their marriage are just pissy people. The don't like their job. They don't like their parents. Their city sucks. Etc. It's not a big surprise they aren't content with their marriage. (I see this as applying more to people who bitch about their marriage but never do anything to fix the problems.)

Uh, odds are they are probably basic white, cotton, underpants.

Did you date a lot of Mormons in your single life?

 

[nebcountry]

just curious what the percentage rate is of people who regret getting married

my cousin tells me it's not what you think it will be

i have one basic fear.. constant bitching, moaning, complaining etc (ie. will married life be like this message board sometimes)

I didn't pick an answer to your poll. I'm married. I can't change the past. Being married is better than being divorced for me. I try not to regret things, mull on things that have already played out. There's good times and bad times.

It all depends. Call me a romantic, but I believe there's people out there that you're supposed to be with. If you're with one of those people, it will be like a feel-good family channel movie.

Otherwise,
How much do you communicate, and is that communication open and honest. If there's things that she does that bug you now, that will amplify the longer you're married, unless you accept those things or get her to change. I think of my wife as my best friend. But her best friends are other people, I'm her husband. I don't get as much latitude or slack.

You've got one shot at life, try to make good decisions. And now that that's done, let me go throw the little plastic milk jug ring away that's sitting on the counter right next to the trash can.

Edit: I can't change the past, but I don't want to. I'll take the good and the bad.

 

[GretnaShawn]

I love my wife as a partner, as a friend, and as an amazing mother to my children. But uh I guess I, deep down, am feeling a little confused. I mean, suddenly, you get married, and you're supposed to be this entirely different guy. I don't feel different. I mean, take yesterday for example. We were out at the Olive Garden for dinner, which was lovely. And, uh, I happen to look over at a certain point during the meal and see a waitress taking an order, and I found myself wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Uh, odds are they are probably basic white, cotton, underpants. But I sort of think, well, maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something really cool that I don't even know about. You know, and uh, and I started feeling...

Man there are a lot of people missing the reference. For all the people that don't get it...

 

[jimbosc]

I knew I had heard that before......lol

 

[RedSea]

Thanks for the tip Gretna, afraid I missed that reference, not to mention the movie!

 

[WHCSC]

If you regret being married, that is potentially a strong signal that you are married to the wrong person. Find the right person, work a little at your marriage and maybe, just maybe you won't regret it.

I would say - if you regret being married, your spouse probably married the wrong person.

 

[mel mains]

I didn't pick an answer to your poll. I'm married. I can't change the past. Being married is better than being divorced for me. I try not to regret things, mull on things that have already played out. There's good times and bad times.

It all depends. Call me a romantic, but I believe there's people out there that you're supposed to be with. If you're with one of those people, it will be like a feel-good family channel movie.

Otherwise,
How much do you communicate, and is that communication open and honest. If there's things that she does that bug you now, that will amplify the longer you're married, unless you accept those things or get her to change. I think of my wife as my best friend. But her best friends are other people, I'm her husband. I don't get as much latitude or slack.

You've got one shot at life, try to make good decisions. And now that that's done, let me go throw the little plastic milk jug ring away that's sitting on the counter right next to the trash can.

Edit: I can't change the past, but I don't want to. I'll take the good and the bad.

Mine is the salt shaker (post-popcorn) directly under its kitchen cabinet.

And don't get me started about the clothing that doesn't get hung up, seemingly since we moved in.

Edit: married 18 years. And regret is too strong a word. Can't answer that.

 

[worldstarhusker]

Never will

 

[chucks]

Marriage is supposed to test your love for your wife. You will find out how patient, kind, forgiving, unselfish you are, so you can then work on your weaknesses.

Women are responders. If they aren't responding, their husband has some work to do, and I don't mean fix his wife.

What is he doing wrong, what can he do better, he needs to find a way. He's married to the right person, he just needs to be the type of husband his wife will respond to.
If he is, there will no regrets.

I got married four months ago to a lovely woman half my age. Problems are going to happen to every marriage. The good marriages find a way. We've had our situations already, just like anyone, and they are opportunities for me to do what is best for the marriage, starting with myself.

The husband is the CEO of that marriage. It's on him to make it work.

I also believe there is nothing better than being married. Singleness carries a high risk, just too expensive for me.

Commit to your woman when you find her, tell her often she is the only one and you will never leave her. That's a good place to start.

 

[chucks]

I'm 25 and have been married 4 years. There's things that really stink. I'd love to come home from work and do whatever I want. I want to play ps3! Lol

All the little things aside though it's so worth it. Shes my best friend and I can't imagine being without her for the rest of my life..I could use a weeks vacation a couple times a year though haha.

Now I have a 10 month baby boy that makes it even more fulfilling

Glad you didn't waste time and got married sooner rather than later. I like your thoughts!

 

[Cornicator]

This past Monday, (Labor Day) the wife and I proceeded to get some tasks completed around the house. WHile stopping at ACE Hardware, I decided to grab some sandwiches at Mr. Goodcents. I called to ask what kind of sandwich she wanted.

She says, "I want the same thing you always get." I said, "You want everything I put on my sandwich?" She says yes.

Knowing her like I do, I knew she didn't want green peppers and black olives on her sandwich. So I excluded those items. I also knew she didnt like Roast Beef, so I just got her a turkey sandwich with everything I get... sans Black olives and green peppers.

When I arrived at the house, she says, "Did you get mustard on this sandwich?" I said yes. You asked for everything I put on the sandwich. She says why would you get mustard on this sandwich? We've been married for almost 5 years, and you don't know I hate mustard?
And I swear to God this was her next question:

"Do you even know what it means to love somebody other than yourself or your precious Nebraska Cornhuskers?"

This led to an argument for the next hour.


So.... if you think I regret marriage, you would be correct.

 

[steelclaw]

I love my wife as a partner, as a friend, and as an amazing mother to my children. But uh I guess I, deep down, am feeling a little confused. I mean, suddenly, you get married, and you're supposed to be this entirely different guy. I don't feel different. I mean, take yesterday for example. We were out at the Olive Garden for dinner, which was lovely. And, uh, I happen to look over at a certain point during the meal and see a waitress taking an order, and I found myself wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Uh, odds are they are probably basic white, cotton, underpants. But I sort of think, well, maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something really cool that I don't even know about. You know, and uh, and I started feeling...

And I'm certain she's wondering what the Culligan man is packing sometimes too. I aint getting married.

 

[steelclaw]

Marriage is supposed to test your love for your wife. You will find out how patient, kind, forgiving, unselfish you are, so you can then work on your weaknesses.

Women are responders. If they aren't responding, their husband has some work to do, and I don't mean fix his wife.

What is he doing wrong, what can he do better, he needs to find a way. He's married to the right person, he just needs to be the type of husband his wife will respond to.
If he is, there will no regrets.

I got married four months ago to a lovely woman half my age. Problems are going to happen to every marriage. The good marriages find a way. We've had our situations already, just like anyone, and they are opportunities for me to do what is best for the marriage, starting with myself.

The husband is the CEO of that marriage. It's on him to make it work.

I also believe there is nothing better than being married. Singleness carries a high risk, just too expensive for me.

Commit to your woman when you find her, tell her often she is the only one and you will never leave her. That's a good place to start.

Are you learning to speak Russian?

 

[mel mains]

This past Monday, (Labor Day) the wife and I proceeded to get some tasks completed around the house. WHile stopping at ACE Hardware, I decided to grab some sandwiches at Mr. Goodcents. I called to ask what kind of sandwich she wanted.

She says, "I want the same thing you always get." I said, "You want everything I put on my sandwich?" She says yes.

Knowing her like I do, I knew she didn't want green peppers and black olives on her sandwich. So I excluded those items. I also knew she didnt like Roast Beef, so I just got her a turkey sandwich with everything I get... sans Black olives and green peppers.

When I arrived at the house, she says, "Did you get mustard on this sandwich?" I said yes. You asked for everything I put on the sandwich. She says why would you get mustard on this sandwich? We've been married for almost 5 years, and you don't know I hate mustard?
And I swear to God this was her next question:

"Do you even know what it means to love somebody other than yourself or your precious Nebraska Cornhuskers?"

This led to an argument for the next hour.


So.... if you think I regret marriage, you would be correct.

Amazing how often this mind-boggling shit happens.

 

[Catch50]

Man there are a lot of people missing the reference. For all the people that don't get it...

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[JohnRossEwing]

This past Monday, (Labor Day) the wife and I proceeded to get some tasks completed around the house. WHile stopping at ACE Hardware, I decided to grab some sandwiches at Mr. Goodcents. I called to ask what kind of sandwich she wanted.

She says, "I want the same thing you always get." I said, "You want everything I put on my sandwich?" She says yes.

Knowing her like I do, I knew she didn't want green peppers and black olives on her sandwich. So I excluded those items. I also knew she didnt like Roast Beef, so I just got her a turkey sandwich with everything I get... sans Black olives and green peppers.

When I arrived at the house, she says, "Did you get mustard on this sandwich?" I said yes. You asked for everything I put on the sandwich. She says why would you get mustard on this sandwich? We've been married for almost 5 years, and you don't know I hate mustard?
And I swear to God this was her next question:

"Do you even know what it means to love somebody other than yourself or your precious Nebraska Cornhuskers?"

This led to an argument for the next hour.


So.... if you think I regret marriage, you would be correct.

HA! That is funny!

 

[Archie Graham]

That's good insight right there!

Why wife is the very best thing that has ever happened to me. I shudder thinking what path I would have gone done without her in my life.

 

[Lincoln100]

This past Monday, (Labor Day) the wife and I proceeded to get some tasks completed around the house. WHile stopping at ACE Hardware, I decided to grab some sandwiches at Mr. Goodcents. I called to ask what kind of sandwich she wanted.

She says, "I want the same thing you always get." I said, "You want everything I put on my sandwich?" She says yes.

Knowing her like I do, I knew she didn't want green peppers and black olives on her sandwich. So I excluded those items. I also knew she didnt like Roast Beef, so I just got her a turkey sandwich with everything I get... sans Black olives and green peppers.

When I arrived at the house, she says, "Did you get mustard on this sandwich?" I said yes. You asked for everything I put on the sandwich. She says why would you get mustard on this sandwich? We've been married for almost 5 years, and you don't know I hate mustard?
And I swear to God this was her next question:

"Do you even know what it means to love somebody other than yourself or your precious Nebraska Cornhuskers?"

This led to an argument for the next hour.


So.... if you think I regret marriage, you would be correct.

Reading this sucks. Been there and no longer married. It was long and quite painful for the last few years. There needs to be a healthy dose of respect that each person has for the other, otherwise, it just isn't going to work.

 

[Lincoln100]

HA! That is funny!

Not if you're living with it.

 

[big red22]

just curious what the percentage rate is of people who regret getting married

my cousin tells me it's not what you think it will be

i have one basic fear.. constant bitching, moaning, complaining etc (ie. will married life be like this message board sometimes)

Regret - No

Life Changing - Absolutely

When you get married, you become one. You do things in order please one another, and sometimes you just get lazy. That leads to arguments on a regular basis, and frustration. I married an alpha "Female". Yes there is such a thing. She is very strong willed and I love that about her. She is extremely witty and will put you in your place when it is needed. She even does this to friends of mine! Also a fantastic sense of humor.

When you get married your life changes and you do things together "Most of the time". You will still need and get your own time

When you have kids... THIS is when your priorities change, and your life that you used to know is a distant memory. Kids are the best thing in the world, but they take over your life so you can take care of theirs. Not a regret, just a BIG change!

How this helps

 

[studed]

I love my wife as a partner, as a friend, and as an amazing mother to my children. But uh I guess I, deep down, am feeling a little confused. I mean, suddenly, you get married, and you're supposed to be this entirely different guy. I don't feel different. I mean, take yesterday for example. We were out at the Olive Garden for dinner, which was lovely. And, uh, I happen to look over at a certain point during the meal and see a waitress taking an order, and I found myself wondering what color her underpants might be. Her panties. Uh, odds are they are probably basic white, cotton, underpants. But I sort of think, well, maybe they're silk panties, maybe it's a thong. Maybe it's something really cool that I don't even know about. You know, and uh, and I started feeling...

 

[litespeedhuskerfan]

She says she is ok with it. Rimshot

Dude...

 

[litespeedhuskerfan]

This past Monday, (Labor Day) the wife and I proceeded to get some tasks completed around the house. WHile stopping at ACE Hardware, I decided to grab some sandwiches at Mr. Goodcents. I called to ask what kind of sandwich she wanted.

She says, "I want the same thing you always get." I said, "You want everything I put on my sandwich?" She says yes.

Knowing her like I do, I knew she didn't want green peppers and black olives on her sandwich. So I excluded those items. I also knew she didnt like Roast Beef, so I just got her a turkey sandwich with everything I get... sans Black olives and green peppers.

When I arrived at the house, she says, "Did you get mustard on this sandwich?" I said yes. You asked for everything I put on the sandwich. She says why would you get mustard on this sandwich? We've been married for almost 5 years, and you don't know I hate mustard?
And I swear to God this was her next question:

"Do you even know what it means to love somebody other than yourself or your precious Nebraska Cornhuskers?"

This led to an argument for the next hour.


So.... if you think I regret marriage, you would be correct.

Corn I've read this 3 times, cause it's THAT funny, and sad, because I'm sure you weren't trying to be funny.