with the problems he's had, he just needs to know that people care about him and want him to be well. That's all. He didn't do anything that a LOT of teenage boys aren't doing but he got caught by a snoopy angry stepmother. He's a mess. Let us hope that he ends up being a productive member of society and not just another statistic someday.
I get what you are saying but that is what HE needs to do. I am talking about what WE need to do. WE need to quit enabling him and others. He screwed up, he needs to fix it. If he never plays football again, I don't care. He shouldn't either. Get your life in order.