My father passed after a long battle with Alzheimer's this morning five years ago. How I wish I could have just 10 minutes with him to hug and cry on his shoulder. To ask him for some advice and laugh with him one more time.
OT- Five years ago today my world changed.
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I can't fathom the moment when my father passes away. Although ultimately it will happen, I don't want to envision it. I pray your father had as great of an impact as mine has on me, I am truly blessed.
Lost my dad to Alzheimers a couple of years before that, I can't tell you how many times I wish that I had taken more time to be with him before the fog settled in. I'd give anything for one more afternoon of fishing/talking with him.
Scariest thing in the world to me is the day my dad passes away. He's my best friend and I respect him more than any man in the world for who has been to me as a dad and mentor.
Dad was an ex Husker player so naturally I grew up watching Hisker games with him. Even after they moved to Arizona, we are on the phone for every single game. Hang up at halftime and get back on for the second half kickoff. We have only missed 3 games since they moved in 2001 (all due to weddings going on). Before that we missed watching one game together since 92. We pass up free tickets with friend and husker watch parties because neither of us would rather watch it with someone else.
My biggest fear is watching that first game without him. My only hope is that my sons are old enough to where they will be there with me so I'm not watching alone and waiting for a phone call that will never come.
Dad was an ex Husker player so naturally I grew up watching Hisker games with him. Even after they moved to Arizona, we are on the phone for every single game. Hang up at halftime and get back on for the second half kickoff. We have only missed 3 games since they moved in 2001 (all due to weddings going on). Before that we missed watching one game together since 92. We pass up free tickets with friend and husker watch parties because neither of us would rather watch it with someone else.
My biggest fear is watching that first game without him. My only hope is that my sons are old enough to where they will be there with me so I'm not watching alone and waiting for a phone call that will never come.
I feel the same way, I've been blessed to still have both my parents and as you sayed ultimately that day will surely come and I dread the day when it happens so I enjoy the time now I have with them.
Kinda strange it doesn't matter how long ago you still have reflexes to pick up the phone and ask a question he could answer.
So sorry Rover. I've been there. I lost my father when he was 43 & I was 21. Mom passed 6 years ago. I can say that as time goes by the pain subsides but the memories never do. Cherish them. My sympathies sir.
Sometimes I wonder why me? Why take our loved ones? Just remember, God won't give you anything you can't handle. You are not alone, and neither are our friends that have passed. If anything, looking at how some places are these days, they are the fortunate ones.
Feel your pain, Rover. My Dad died in early June 2006. He was by far the most influential person in my life. As you're probably discovering on your own, the pain of the loss ebbs over time, but never entirely abates. I've always thought the pain was, in a way, a good thing because it indicates how deep and ever-lasting my love for him was. My most heartfelt condolences to you.
In a couple of weeks, it will be 20 years since I got the call from my blubbering mother that my father had passed away unexpectedly. I had trouble hearing "Amazing Grace" for years because they played that at his funeral. I too wish I could talk to him one more time. To give him a hug. To receive a hug. I regret not asking him questions about his past. I was too consumed with my own life to care when I was younger. You never think you'll run out of time. But we all do.
I choose not to focus on that. Live each day with purpose. Learn something new each day. Give thanks for all you have and let the ones around you know how much you love them. It's in those ways that you honor your father. I'm the kind of man that I am because of him.
I choose not to focus on that. Live each day with purpose. Learn something new each day. Give thanks for all you have and let the ones around you know how much you love them. It's in those ways that you honor your father. I'm the kind of man that I am because of him.
Lost my Dad in August of 2009. This man was solid in every way as he was part of the Greatest Generation and WWII marine that served in the South Pacific. I have tried to emulate being as good a father as was my father but I know I have fell short. Unfortunately I left home at 18 and once I graduated from college never lived any closer than 500 miles away so my adult time with my father was limited. I really regret this now. So now I have two adult boys which both live over 500 miles away from me so the cycle is repeating itself. Reminds me of the lyrics to the song "Cats in the Cradle".
I bet your biggest fear is one of your father's most comforting thoughts. That when he is gone you will be watching the game for the both of you and he knows you will be thinking of him.
I know exactly how you feel, lost my Dad to Alzheimer's in Dec of 2011, 2 years after losing my wives Dad's to the same awful disease and are now preparing for the same thing with my mother-in-law going through this with 3 out of 4 of our parents is truly devastating. Prayers that a cure can be found and we see an end to Alzheimer's in our lifetime.
Very sorry. I get it. read through this thread several times. My dad gone 6 yrs this month, Eagle, WW2, Korea.
Until just last year I quit picking up the phone to ask him which part of Belgium is Prot and which part is Catholic, where is best place to buy Scotts 2, is a Rose of Sharon planted to close to the foundation invaisive?
What I wish more than about anything is that you younger guys who have folks in their late fifties get why us older folks miss our parents. Ball is in your court. Love them and enjoy em while they are there for you in Gods time.
Red Rover a prayer is on it's way.
Until just last year I quit picking up the phone to ask him which part of Belgium is Prot and which part is Catholic, where is best place to buy Scotts 2, is a Rose of Sharon planted to close to the foundation invaisive?
What I wish more than about anything is that you younger guys who have folks in their late fifties get why us older folks miss our parents. Ball is in your court. Love them and enjoy em while they are there for you in Gods time.
Red Rover a prayer is on it's way.
