I was saddened by this boards response

[huskersamb]

Yesterday i shared a personal story about my parents 41 years of marrige Until my father past recently. They met at a Billy Graham rally in Dallas.. Neither from texas. He was a major influence in their lives too. He will be missed.
It was upsetting to hear the news and half this board just hates on people instead of words of condolence. It was locked
Sad half of you cant have sympathy for someone grieving and have to respond like biitter children.

 

[chicolby]

Yesterday i shared a personal story about my parents 41 years of marrige Until my father past recently. They met at a Billy Graham rally in Dallas.. Neither from texas. He was a major influence in their lives too. He will be missed.
It was upsetting to hear the news and half this board just hates on people instead of words of condolence. It was locked
Sad half of you cant have sympathy for someone grieving and have to respond like biitter children.

So in other words, let’s try this again?

 

[Suh is King]

Yesterday i shared a personal story about my parents 41 years of marrige Until my father past recently. They met at a Billy Graham rally in Dallas.. Neither from texas. He was a major influence in their lives too. He will be missed.
It was upsetting to hear the news and half this board just hates on people instead of words of condolence. It was locked
Sad half of you cant have sympathy for someone grieving and have to respond like biitter children.

Did not see your post, but can certainly understand your disappointment. Unfortunately I am not surprised that what you described happened. Condolences to you and yours.

 

[husker2612]

Yesterday i shared a personal story about my parents 41 years of marrige Until my father past recently. They met at a Billy Graham rally in Dallas.. Neither from texas. He was a major influence in their lives too. He will be missed.
It was upsetting to hear the news and half this board just hates on people instead of words of condolence. It was locked
Sad half of you cant have sympathy for someone grieving and have to respond like biitter children.

I did not see the post, nor do I now. Either way I am sorry for your loss on all accounts. Yes I have noticed that with some on this board as well. Some would rather be negative and bash others and their opinions vs just plain ignoring something they may not agree with. I understand we aren't all going to see eye to eye on topics. The point of a msg board is to talk, discuss and yes even argue our differences. Doing it with respect is a art lost on some. (Yes, even me at times) One thing the age of social media has brought us is "tough" guys and loud mouths, protected by their screen. Again sorry for the response by some.

 

[TruHusker]

Dont be offended. It is becoming normal for a basic conversation to go south rapidly. One about a coach who left unexpectedly turned to a post about oral s_ _.

You just have to consider sources and not expect this to be a place of support in all things. Welcome to the new reality of dealing with mankind.

Sorry for your loss and glad for the connection they made so many years ago.

 

[huskerfan1414]

Didn't see the post.
Sorry about your loss

 

[kaz36]

Yesterday i shared a personal story about my parents 41 years of marrige Until my father past recently. They met at a Billy Graham rally in Dallas.. Neither from texas. He was a major influence in their lives too. He will be missed.
It was upsetting to hear the news and half this board just hates on people instead of words of condolence. It was locked
Sad half of you cant have sympathy for someone grieving and have to respond like biitter children.

Sorry for your loss, but you posted that thread over on RSS. This is the free board.

 

[ssmill777]

So in other words, let’s try this again?

So that's the extent of your empathy/compassion? Talk about heartless - the guy lost his father for crying out loud. At least you could have ignored his post if you didn't give a rip.

 

[husker2612]

Dont be offended. It is becoming normal for a basic conversation to go south rapidly. One about a coach who left unexpectedly turned to a post about oral s_ _.

You just have to consider sources and not expect this to be a place of support in all things. Welcome to the new reality of dealing with mankind.

Sorry for your loss and glad for the connection they made so many years ago.

Very true, would be interesting to know the ages of people that do this stuff. Is it just millennial thing? Never taught to respect others?

 

[huskerfan66]

Gotta jump in too not seeing it. I was kinda surprised not to see any ot about Rev Graham. My condolences to you and your family.

 

[husker2612]

So in other words, let’s try this again?

So that's the extent of your empathy/compassion? Talk about heartless - the guy lost his father for crying out loud. At least you could have ignored his post if you didn't give a rip.

The first response is exactly the point of the OP. Wise words from my grandfather,....... " Just because we have a thought, doesn't mean we always have to share it. " Translated by me.... "Sometimes just shut the F up"

 

[scarletred]

Sorry for your loss, but you posted that thread over on RSS. This is the free board.

That is what I was thinking the last post that was locked here was the school shooting last Wednesday.

Sorry for original poster loss of his father.

 

[Pennsyhusker]

Sorry for your loss, but you posted that thread over on RSS. This is the free board.

Explains why I didn't see it

 

[donahues17]

My condolences go out to you first and foremost.

On your disappointment, that very issue makes this board hard to read anymore. A good topic will turn to a pissing match between 2 guys that thunk they know more about who the next 17 year old is gonna commit to. Worst part is the mods let it continue to happen.

 

[chicolby]

So that's the extent of your empathy/compassion? Talk about heartless - the guy lost his father for crying out loud. At least you could have ignored his post if you didn't give a rip.

I could go on ad nauseam about this, but I'll try to keep it short. My interpretation is that the post was more about an opportunity to talk about Billy Graham and not his father's recent passing. Secondarily, I'll never understand why people want to talk about their personal family crises or challenges on a Husker chat board. Lastly, using the first assumption, this poster clearly had to know that Billy Graham was a lightning rod of public opinion. If one wants to talk about Billy Graham, I imagine there are better places to share these conversations. Here's one https://www.facebook.com/BillyGrahamEvangelisticAssociation/

 

[chrsmneric]

Please don't take this the wrong way...but you're asking a bunch of complete strangers to sympathize with someone who they don't know who lost someone they don't know, all the while many of the people on these boards lost someone they loved at some point. Then you post another thread asking for sympathy because some members didn't sympathize with you. Again, I'm not trying to be rude but it's uncomfortable to sympathize with a complete stranger emotionally over a message board. I am sorry for your loss, I can't possibly know what it's like to lose a close family member because I haven't yet...but mourning is best spent with family and friends?

 

[chicolby]

The first response is exactly the point of the OP. Wise words from my grandfather,....... " Just because we have a thought, doesn't mean we always have to share it. " Translated by me.... "Sometimes just shut the F up"

Appreciate your thoughts @husker2612, same could be said to every single poster here. We all have thoughts and decide to share them, including you, who talks about why UCF can't get over us, your top 5 movies and on and on.

Original poster wanted to talk about the passing of Billy Graham. His post was already shut down and he tried again.

 

[husker2612]

Appreciate your thoughts @husker2612, same could be said to every single poster here. We all have thoughts and decide to share them, including you, who talks about why UCF can't get over us, your top 5 movies and on and on.

Original poster wanted to talk about the passing of Billy Graham. His post was already shut down and he tried again.

Right, this is a msg board. It is going to have a variety of topics. Not all we will agree with, but my thoughts are not insensitive or possibly hurting someone who is having a hard time in their life. That is the difference

 

[NorthWillRiseAgain]

Appreciate your thoughts @husker2612, same could be said to every single poster here. We all have thoughts and decide to share them, including you, who talks about why UCF can't get over us, your top 5 movies and on and on.

Original poster wanted to talk about the passing of Billy Graham. His post was already shut down and he tried again.

If someone posts on a public forum, about a subject completely off topic, expect a wide variety of answers, I would think.

 

[TheBeav815]

Very true, would be interesting to know the ages of people that do this stuff. Is it just millennial thing? Never taught to respect others?

"Were they never taught to respect others?" he wondered, while making a baseless, disrespectful claim about and entire generation of people...

 

[NorthWillRiseAgain]

Yesterday i shared a personal story about my parents 41 years of marrige Until my father past recently. They met at a Billy Graham rally in Dallas.. Neither from texas. He was a major influence in their lives too. He will be missed.
It was upsetting to hear the news and half this board just hates on people instead of words of condolence. It was locked
Sad half of you cant have sympathy for someone grieving and have to respond like biitter children.

But, my condolences to your family. No idea what Your actual post was.

 

[husker2612]

Please don't take this the wrong way...but you're asking a bunch of complete strangers to sympathize with someone who they don't know who lost someone they don't know, all the while many of the people on these boards lost someone they loved at some point. Then you post another thread asking for sympathy because some members didn't sympathize with you. Again, I'm not trying to be rude but it's uncomfortable to sympathize with a complete stranger emotionally over a message board. I am sorry for your loss, I can't possibly know what it's like to lose a close family member because I haven't yet...but mourning is best spent with family and friends?

Everyone mourns in their own way, maybe the OPs way is share on a husker msg board. Huskers affect everyone differently, maybe it is important to him. Point is. It is not anyone's place to say what is right or not. It comes down to basic human decadence for others. A simple I'm sorry for your loss isn't much to give if it makes someone feel better.

 

[husker2612]

"Were they never taught to respect others?" he wondered, while making a baseless, disrespectful claim about and entire generation of people...

I never made a claim I asked a question. A claim would be "They were never taught to respect others" I am simply asking others opinions. Thanks for yours. Obviously you are one and I apologize you were offended.

 

[NorthWillRiseAgain]

I never made a claim I asked a question. A claim would be "They were never taught to respect others" I am simply asking others opinions. Thanks for yours. Obviously you are one and I apologize you were offended.

A rhetorical question isn’t a question.....

 

[TheBeav815]

To the point of the OP, sorry for your loss.

That said, whatever your personal experiences with some famous person and your emotional attachment to them, that doesn't invalidate other people's experiences with that person or opinions of them. You may have had positive interactions with Billy Graham. Others take issue with the wealth he built out of his ministry and the judgements he passed and/or encouraged others to pass.

I waited on Ndamukong Suh when I worked at Lazlos and he was a nice guy to wait on. Doesn't mean he doesn't push it too far on the football field and take cheap shots at other players or never had (allegedly) a problem with getting behind the wheel after drinking.

I'm sure 15 years ago plenty of us would have had no problem declaring that Bill Cosby was one of the best examples of a human being you could ever hope to find. There are many sides to some people and most of them are neither all good nor all bad.

 

[chicolby]

Everyone mourns in their own way, maybe the OPs way is share on a husker msg board. Huskers affect everyone differently, maybe it is important to him. Point is. It is not anyone's place to say what is right or not. It comes down to basic human decadence for others. A simple I'm sorry for your loss isn't much to give if it makes someone feel better.

Please read the first post again. The post wasn't about the passing of his father, and I certainly didn't make light of the passing of his father. The post was specifically about the passing of Billy Graham and how it was related to his family. Actually, the post I commented on was not about either - it was about disappointment by a board's response to this post.

Also, please read my responses. Nowhere did I disparage anyone or disrespect the loss of life for anyone, including Billy Graham. I did make light of the fact that the poster's first attempt resulted in a locked thread, so he tried again. If I started posting about gun control and it was locked, then came back and tried it again, I would hope someone would call me out on it also.

 

[husker2612]

A rhetorical question isn’t a question.....

Off topic of the OP. Sorry to you and anyone who took offense to my question.

Please read the first post again. The post wasn't about the passing of his father, and I certainly didn't make light of the passing of his father. The post was specifically about the passing of Billy Graham and how it was related to his family. Actually, the post I commented on was not about either - it was about disappointment by a board's response to this post.

Also, please read my responses. Nowhere did I disparage anyone or disrespect the loss of life for anyone, including Billy Graham. I did make light of the fact that the poster's first attempt resulted in a locked thread, so he tried again. If I started posting about gun control and it was locked, then came back and tried it again, I would hope someone would call me out on it also.

I don't want this thread to side track to a different conversation and take away from the OP. I will leave it at Agree to disagree.

 

[TheBeav815]

Please read the first post again. The post wasn't about the passing of his father, and I certainly didn't make light of the passing of his father. The post was specifically about the passing of Billy Graham and how it was related to his family. Actually, the post I commented on was not about either - it was about disappointment by a board's response to this post.

Also, please read my responses. Nowhere did I disparage anyone or disrespect the loss of life for anyone, including Billy Graham. I did make light of the fact that the poster's first attempt resulted in a locked thread, so he tried again. If I started posting about gun control and it was locked, then came back and tried it again, I would hope someone would call me out on it also.

So you want people on this message board to read carefully and respond thoughtfully?

 

[NorthWillRiseAgain]

Off topic of the OP. Sorry to you and anyone who took offense to my question.

I don't want this thread to side track to a different conversation and take away from the OP. I will leave it at Agree to disagree.

I take no offense. I just don’t categorize myself or most others with a broad brush like many here like to.

All generations have their issues, just look at the government.

 

[CC_Lemming]

Since I joined this board, I’ve lost a parent to a car accident, another to cancer, and two of our children died prematurely in the second trimester of pregnancy, one of them very late.

I never made posts about these things to ask for condolences or to commiserate with those who have gone through similar issues, but I certainly do not have a problem with those who do.

Most of the time people post such things asking for prayers for the deceased and their loved ones. They are reaching out to other members of their faith community for support. That seems to me an important, healthy, and reassuring thing to do.

But in posting personal facts like the above you can’t assume everyone will respond to your vulnerabilities with empathy or respect. I don’t post such things because it doesn’t really help me grieve and prayers bring me no solace. My wife is just the opposite in the first respect. In grieving over her miscarriages publicly on social media, some have had the nerve to insinuate that she has lost children because she is pro choice. If it helps, you can take comfort in knowing that it takes a real miserable person to expound another’s grief.

 

[chrsmneric]

Everyone mourns in their own way, maybe the OPs way is share on a husker msg board. Huskers affect everyone differently, maybe it is important to him. Point is. It is not anyone's place to say what is right or not. It comes down to basic human decadence for others. A simple I'm sorry for your loss isn't much to give if it makes someone feel better.

You just said "It is not anyone's place to say what is right or not" and followed it by saying the right thing to do is show sympathy. I totally get the point you are making...maybe my usage of "is best spent" led you to believe I was telling the OP what to do. It was preceded by "maybe" insinuating that if the Husker Boards didn't bring you relief, there are other options.

 

[tarheelhusker]

When my dad passed, it was the worst hurt I'd ever experienced, 39 years have passed & I still miss him. I feel for you & your family. It is most painful. As a Christian, I believe he is with Christ in eternal light.
God give you the strength to carry on.

 

[jay-cheese]

Great post CC. Couldn't have said it better.

Threads like this are EXACTLY how trolls operate. I'm not accusing the OP of being a troll (so no need to attack me), but just look at the subject matter and attempt for sympathy and whah-lah, you have people read it and you likely can impact their opinion. Can you see this? I don't think the average person really can. If yes, can you comprehend how someone could easily sway (lie to) people on real and impactful issues and never be held accountable? Are there any potential benefits to that?

For some reason people do care what others think (not a good human trait btw...you wouldn't write this OP message on a sign and stand on a corner and expect people to care, so why would they then online??). The internet intensifies this concept by giving an anyone a microphone. That's not good thing BTW-for the lurkers or posters. Anonymous commentary? Might as well toss a match into a gas can. The internet is the best thing ever for the "little guys". They can manipulate under the guise of legitimacy and the best part is even when you point it out-it only pours even more fuel on the fire. Pathetic really...

GBR

 

[WestCoastCornhusker2]

Yesterday i shared a personal story about my parents 41 years of marrige Until my father past recently. They met at a Billy Graham rally in Dallas.. Neither from texas. He was a major influence in their lives too. He will be missed.
It was upsetting to hear the news and half this board just hates on people instead of words of condolence. It was locked
Sad half of you cant have sympathy for someone grieving and have to respond like biitter children.

Forgive them for know not what they do. They may not accept the free gift of salvation and will spend eternity in Hades.

 

[NorthWillRiseAgain]

Forgive them for know not what they do. They may not accept the free gift of salvation and will spend eternity in Hades.

Seems reasonable

 

[Baxter48]

Yesterday i shared a personal story about my parents 41 years of marrige Until my father past recently. They met at a Billy Graham rally in Dallas.. Neither from texas. He was a major influence in their lives too. He will be missed.
It was upsetting to hear the news and half this board just hates on people instead of words of condolence. It was locked
Sad half of you cant have sympathy for someone grieving and have to respond like biitter children.

Sorry I didn't see any post! Sorry for your loss and Rev Billy Graham the country will miss him. But don't be to judgmental about people we all deal with grief differently and some of us don't do a very good job of giving condolences, other like there privacy won't post any and other times we just don't know who's actually behind the keyboard so we're very cautious and even sometimes be a jerk not really meaning it.

 

[Baxter48]

When my dad passed, it was the worst hurt I'd ever experienced, 39 years have passed & I still miss him. I feel for you & your family. It is most painful. As a Christian, I believe he is with Christ in eternal light.
God give you the strength to carry on.

You know my dad passed away in 13 miss him every day but unlike yourself ours was a blessing dad had dementia didn't know any of us and couldn't speak words, wasn't dad anymore.

 

[tarheelhusker]

You know my dad passed away in 13 miss him every day but unlike yourself ours was a blessing dad had dementia didn't know any of us and couldn't speak words, wasn't dad anymore.

I understand, my mom had Alzheimer's for 17 years. After 5 years of watching her suffer we begged for her to be taken. 17 years of blank stares, not understanding or knowing a damn thing. None in the family shed a tear, we were grateful.

My dad passed between getting a re-fill of morning coffee, we cried like babies. So much left unsaid.

 

[CameronKrazie86]

Sorry for your loss OP.

 

[Baxter48]

I understand, my mom had Alzheimer's for 17 years. After 5 years of watching her suffer we begged for her to be taken. 17 years of blank stares, not understanding or knowing a damn thing. None in the family shed a tear, we were grateful.

My dad passed between getting a re-fill of morning coffee, we cried like babies. So much left unsaid.

You know if we'd get to pick I'd pick the way your dad went, no pain no suffering here one minute gone the next. Now for the loved ones you are correct it's a shock out of nowhere, as with dementia or Alzheimer's you do get the opportunity to say goodbye and the funeral is sad but you sure reminisce a lot also